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WANTED: Female Friend.<\/p>\n
Age: Less (as in age-less).<\/p>\n
Location: Present.<\/p>\n
Availability: When needed.<\/p>\n
Skills: Non-judgmental listening ears and voice given to both constructive critique and compliments.<\/p>\n
Pay: Reciprocity.<\/p>\n
On the subject of friendship, I\u2019m very clear: I know what I want in a friend. That\u2019s easy. Harder \u2013 for me \u2013 is being<\/em> friendable. Approachable. Open to the new. Willing to do the work of investing from scratch.<\/p>\n How do I open myself to friendship in such a way that I stay safe and yet risk knowing and being known?<\/p>\n Time for some honest self-examination. How badly do I want<\/em> to be known? Honest answer: it depends.<\/em> On my mood, my current circumstances, my schedule, my needs. But friendship doesn\u2019t wait to form just when we are in the mood or need it. It\u2019s formed in the daily and the dramatic so that when we need it, it\u2019s there.<\/em><\/p>\n I want friends. But how friendable<\/em> am I willing to be?<\/p>\n Taking stock of all the enduring friendships in my life, in every one there was a time when I chose<\/em> to be friendable. Such a choice was always followed by another choice to continue being friendable. And so on. Over and over and over again.<\/p>\n Over 25 years ago, I stepped into a group with seven other women. At first, we didn\u2019t really know each other. At least all of us didn\u2019t know all of us. We\u2019d been gathered together by two women who felt nudged to bring us into a group of mutual support due to our life situations. Partly because I sensed agreement with the idea and a lot because they were all older and much wiser, I committed. I knew I needed what they had.<\/p>\n Some time after we began our monthly meetings \u2013 maybe it was a whole year \u2013 I risked and gave more of me. Unedited. Raw. Real. Down the road, I chose again as I listened to another woman share a dark moment. I cupped her story and held it as sacred. Through the years, I\u2019ve chosen again and again and again. Carving out calendar space and protecting it, pausing to consider differences in our generational perspectives, bringing forth more of myself to connect with another, I\u2019ve chosen again and again to become friendable. <\/em><\/p>\n This is the passion behind a new podcast that I\u2019m co-hosting with my new heart-friend, Eryn Eddy<\/a><\/u>, produced by Our Daily Bread Ministries. It\u2019s called God Hears Her<\/a><\/u> and every conversation shares the stunning truth that God notices you. He sees you, he hears you, he loves you because you are his.<\/p>\n Eryn and I met on a kind of friendship \u201cblind date\u201d when we were tapped to co-host this podcast. We wondered, would we like each other? Would we be a \u201cfit?\u201d Would there be chemistry that invited other women in? Who knew? We chose to be friendable and to find out.<\/p>\n Nearly a year later, our cross-generational, mutually mentoring relationship has revitalized many facets of me, challenging me to feel my feels (Eryn is an Enneagram 7 and a ENFP on the Meyers-Briggs), dip further into social media for positive purposes, and become even more honest in order to encourage more women. I think I\u2019ve enriched her life some too \u2013 walking with her through scrape-the-bottom-of-the-bank-account financial decisions, re-entering the dating world and losing her beloved Frenchie, Bernice.\u00a0<\/p>\n God Hears Her<\/a><\/u> is a podcast for women like you and me and Eryn. Because women are pulled in every direction, and we put pressure on ourselves to do all and be all.\u00a0Because we feel overwhelmed, isolated and often wonder \u2026 is it just me? Because we need to be reminded that God sees us while we\u2019re frantically responding to emails, chasing toddlers and doing dishes after dinner. That he hears us when our hearts cry out for more. More help, more happiness, more praise, more contentment.\u00a0Because we need friends to come alongside us in the hurts, joys and struggles of our every day.<\/p>\n Jesus said, \u201cDo to others as you would have them do to you.\u201d<\/em> Translated for us in the arena of friendship: \u201cIf you want a friend, be friendable.\u201d Choose it. And then choose it over and over and over again.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n Elisa Morgan<\/a><\/u><\/strong><\/em> is President Emerita of MOPS International, an author, speaker, co-host of\u00a0Discover the Word<\/a><\/u> and co-host of God Hears Her<\/a><\/u>. 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