{"id":13632,"date":"2021-12-03T12:20:39","date_gmt":"2021-12-03T19:20:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.mops.org\/?p=13632"},"modified":"2021-12-03T12:20:39","modified_gmt":"2021-12-03T19:20:39","slug":"3-ways-to-deal-with-toddler-tantrums","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/3-ways-to-deal-with-toddler-tantrums\/","title":{"rendered":"3 Ways to Deal with Toddler Tantrums"},"content":{"rendered":"

We\u2019ve all been there.\u00a0<\/span>Maybe you\u2019re trying\u00a0to get your toddler to leave\u00a0the playground\u00a0or the trampoline park, or\u00a0you\u2019re at home and gently explaining why\u00a0he or\u00a0she can\u2019t get all the art supplies out right before dinner, and\u00a0that familiar sensation starts bubbling up \u2014 anxiety for you, rage for\u00a0your toddler. Your toddler is about to lose it, and you know for the next 15-30 minutes you\u2019re\u00a0going to be trying to calm your tantrum-ing\u00a0toddler.\u00a0<\/span> We hope you find the 3 ways to deal with toddler tantrums helpful.<\/span><\/p>\n

When my 3-year-old daughter started having tantrums, I had no idea what to do other than panic and sweat! But some through some research and good advice from friends and a counselor I was able to come up with 3 strategies for dealing with toddler tantrums.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Try to avoid them<\/span><\/i>.<\/span><\/h3>\n

A lot of tantrums are the result of a toddler being hungry and tired. So if you notice your toddler getting edgy,\u00a0try giving him or her a snack, or consider an early nap\/bedtime that day.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0

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2. Stay calm<\/span><\/i>.\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

Unfortunately,\u00a0while we can try to avoid them, some\u00a0tantrums are inevitable. Toddlers are trying to be independent, but parents are still having to rein in that independence with the word every toddler hates more than any other \u2014\u00a0<\/span>no<\/span><\/i>. So it\u2019s important to be able to regulate yourself in the midst of your toddler\u2019s tantrums. <\/span>Stay calm and remember your child will feed off of your energy. If you\u2019re calm, it will help your child calm down. It helps me to remember I can ignore the behavior without ignoring the child. I can validate my toddler\u2019s feelings (\u201cCrying is OK, but throwing toys at Mommy is not.\u201d) while also remaining calm and trying to help her calm down as well.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Teach your toddler to self-soothe.<\/span><\/i>\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n

When my daughter has tantrums, I try to stay calm, offer to hug and hold her\u00a0or distract her with toys and games. But sometimes she\u2019s just so far gone there\u2019s nothing I can do.\u00a0The part of the brain that gives humans inhibition and\u00a0impulse\u00a0control\u00a0(the prefrontal\u00a0cortex) isn\u2019t fully developed\u00a0until adulthood, so trying to\u00a0rationally\u00a0appeal to a\u00a0seriously\u00a0tantrum-ing\u00a0toddler to calm down is fruitless, as every parent knows!\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

My counselor suggested I start putting my toddler\u00a0in\u00a0a safe place\u00a0when she\u2019s totally hijacking the peace of the household to give her a chance to\u00a0learn how to\u00a0self-soothe.\u00a0I know this topic can be controversial,\u00a0but I read some great tips on creating a\u00a0\u201ccozy corner\u201d\u00a0with toys and games where a toddler can go\u00a0to calm down. I\u00a0also\u00a0heard a friend say she puts down a yoga mat where her toddler can sit until she\u2019s ready to\u00a0rejoin the family in a calm way.\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

When my daughter is throwing a tantrum, I try to remember that it\u2019s all part of her development and I don\u2019t need to take it personally. Tantrums aren\u2019t a failure on my part or hers; they\u2019re just a big part of my daughter learning how to be independent. And a big part of my own sanctification!<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Emily Chadwell is a writer and editor who lives in Nashville, Tennessee, with her husband, two toddler daughters, and energetic golden retriever. Before staying at home with her daughters, Emily worked in adult ministry publishing at LifeWay Christian Resources, editing and writing for magazines, devotionals and women\u2019s Bible studies. She continues to do freelance for LifeWay and also works part-time as an editor for MOPS International, but her days are primarily filled with play dates and Chick-fil-A lunches.<\/p>\n

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