{"id":13945,"date":"2022-04-29T06:00:00","date_gmt":"2022-04-29T12:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.mops.org\/?p=13945"},"modified":"2024-03-09T16:28:44","modified_gmt":"2024-03-09T16:28:44","slug":"managing-mothers-day-unmet-expectations","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/managing-mothers-day-unmet-expectations\/","title":{"rendered":"Managing Mother\u2019s Day Unmet Expectations"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">It\u2019s Mother\u2019s Day. With eyes still closed, you can smell the fresh coffee and warmed maple syrup being tip-toed into your room. \u202fYou hear muffled giggles and feel soft, tiny hands touch your face. You open your eyes to see eager smiles, a beautiful breakfast-in-bed tray, hand written cards and a small blue velvet box that you hope might just contain that piece of fine jewelry you\u2019ve been dreaming of \u2026 You? Yeah, us neither. Mother\u2019s Day often looks more like waking up to the sound of your children <\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">asking for help in the bathroom and a homemade gift brought in from preschool last week. We all have dreams, right? We know that sweet glitter-coated gifts are special, sticky hands are just part of the job, and we\u2019ve been told that someday we will miss this. But that doesn\u2019t mean we don\u2019t have ideas of how it would feel to be celebrated for the 87 times we read Brown Bear, Brown Bear last week. But, here\u2019s the hard truth: Gratitude is all about perspective, and perspective is filtered through our expectations. Sometimes we are guilty of setting expectations that are unknown, unspoken and unrealistic. Here are five tips to help you ensure your heart will be filled this Mother\u2019s Day:\u202f<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:true,&quot;134233118&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:2,&quot;335559740&quot;:330}\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Speak up:<\/span><\/b> <span data-contrast=\"none\">No one is a mind reader. Those who love us won\u2019t know what we want unless we communicate. Have a conversation with your family clearly stating your hopes and dreams for the day.\u202f<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:true,&quot;134233118&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:2,&quot;335559740&quot;:330}\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Have grace:<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\"> Your family might give a solid effort in making your dreams come true. But, there\u2019s a chance it won\u2019t look exactly like you thought. Don\u2019t lose your sense of humor and respond with grace.\u202f<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:true,&quot;134233118&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:2,&quot;335559740&quot;:330}\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Be realistic:<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\"> Know your audience, and set them up for success. When communicating your expectations for the day keep them realistic. Request things that will make you feel loved, but they will enjoy providing as well.\u202f<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:true,&quot;134233118&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:2,&quot;335559740&quot;:330}\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Be an example:<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\"> Chances are, this Mother\u2019s Day you will be leading the celebration for the generations before you. Take this opportunity to set an example for your family of what it looks like to serve and honor the mothers in your life. Luke 6:31 says \u201cDo to others as you would have them do to you.\u201d There is so much joy in loving others well.\u202f<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:true,&quot;134233118&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:2,&quot;335559740&quot;:330}\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b><span data-contrast=\"none\">Be grateful:<\/span><\/b><span data-contrast=\"none\"> No matter how your Mother\u2019s Day turns out, have a posture of gratitude. Your perception is your reality, so if you are looking for things to go well, it will be much easier to experience the gifts right in front of you.\u202f<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:true,&quot;134233118&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:2,&quot;335559740&quot;:330}\">&nbsp;<\/span><span data-contrast=\"none\">Happy Mother\u2019s Day, Mama! We hope you feel celebrated and loved. Try to relax, take pictures, give and receive lots of hugs. YOU are a phenomenal mom!<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:true,&quot;134233118&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:2,&quot;335559740&quot;:330}\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">xoxo,<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:true,&quot;134233118&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:2,&quot;335559740&quot;:330}\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">MOPS\u202f<\/span><span data-ccp-props=\"{&quot;134233117&quot;:true,&quot;134233118&quot;:true,&quot;201341983&quot;:2,&quot;335559740&quot;:330}\">&nbsp;<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span data-contrast=\"none\">P.S. We want to acknowledge Mother\u2019s Day isn\u2019t always an easy day for some of us. Grief, pain and loss may be part of your story. Know that we love you. 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