{"id":15027,"date":"2015-09-03T17:14:44","date_gmt":"2015-09-03T23:14:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.mops.org\/?p=1757"},"modified":"2015-09-03T17:14:44","modified_gmt":"2015-09-03T23:14:44","slug":"how-to-find-peace-in-the-loneliness-of-motherhood","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/how-to-find-peace-in-the-loneliness-of-motherhood\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Find Peace in the Loneliness of Motherhood"},"content":{"rendered":"

Kasher\u2019s been so sick this weekend it\u2019s infected all of us, our spirits mostly, and it\u2019s hard to stay up when your children are so down. You try and read the same Curious George book over and over, with as much enthusiasm as you can muster but the laundry is obscenely high and you wonder if maybe you could just bury in beneath the colors and sleep, because there\u2019s \u201cno rest for the weary,\u201d or for the mother.<\/span><\/p>\n

And I find myself Saturday night with a cup of tea and the boys asleep, finally, Kasher all drugged up and the ear of his bear in his mouth and the humidifier on and me begging God to let him be well enough to attend church the next morning.<\/span><\/p>\n

Because I need community.<\/span><\/p>\n

Motherhood is lonely. It\u2019s not for the faint of heart. It requires courage and sacrifice and time, it means wiping snotty noses with your fingers because you have no Kleenex, it means sitting up with your son when he won\u2019t sleep and watching movies with him, or just holding him by the open window so the cool air can soothe his lungs, it means praying over their heads, over their beds, over their bodies and then crawling weary into your own to make love to a husband who misses you.<\/span><\/p>\n

And you miss yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

You wonder how you got lost inside this frizzy-haired woman with the bags under her eyes and does the housework never end???<\/span><\/p>\n

But strangely enough, it does. Your house is never clean, no, but you come to a point of making peace with yourself. Of collapsing within yourself and deciding, it doesn\u2019t matter.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not in a depressed kind of way, but more of a surrendered playing on the floor with your children while the laundry piles high kind of way. Because you\u2019ve suddenly noticed how long your son\u2019s legs, and you\u2019re letting hems and sighs and cries for the way you both need him, and the way you want to be alone.<\/span><\/p>\n

And connection.<\/span><\/p>\n

We were made for adult companionship. We need each other. So I\u2019m begging God to let me go to church but then I\u2019m finding him, in my loneliness, too. Because he is there. So in our loneliness, let\u2019s not turn automatically to people.<\/span><\/p>\n

Because we won’t always be able to go to church.<\/span><\/p>\n

But we can always be church for our children.<\/span><\/p>\n

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\"EmilyW\"Emily T. Wierenga is an award-winning journalist, blogger, commissioned artist and columnist, and the author of six books including the new memoir\u00a0Making It Home: Finding My Way to Peace, Identity and Purpose<\/a>\u00a0(Baker Books, 2015). Proceeds from Emily\u2019s books\u00a0benefit her non-profit,\u00a0The Lulu Tree<\/a>. She lives in Alberta, Canada with her husband and three children. For more info, please visit\u00a0www.emilywierenga.com<\/a>. Find her on\u00a0Twitter<\/a>\u00a0or\u00a0Facebook<\/a>.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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