And for too long, I\u2019ve let this fact be an excuse for my unhappiness and proof of my oppression. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The idea of the \u201cdefault parent\u201d is everywhere online. We\u2019re burnt out, burdened, oppressed and enslaved to these children we\u2019ve created. We deserve to be upset about our circumstances and the unfair mental load we suffer from… or at least that\u2019s what Instagram will tell you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But I woke up one day and realized that this perspective wasn\u2019t making me any happier. Dissatisfaction based on what I \u201cdeserved\u201d and was lacking was growing like a big, stringy weed in me. Roots of resentment tangled their way through my mood and choked out the beauty of everyday. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
So, I\u2019m choosing to replace my \u201chave to\u201d with \u201cget to.\u201d Because I prayed for this life. I\u2019m so thankful I GET TO take them to doctor\u2019s appointments, be home to wipe tears and little booties, and open a fridge full of food to assemble onto baby lunch plates. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
I may not like every part of this role. Often, I AM tired and need a break. But seeing these years as a burden is only robbing myself of the joy I could be (and want to be) experiencing every day that I GET to be the default parent. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I am the default parent. <\/p>\n
And for too long, I\u2019ve let this fact be an excuse for my unhappiness and proof of my oppression. <\/p>\n
The idea of the \u201cdefault parent\u201d is everywhere online.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":524,"featured_media":26958,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"I am the default parent. And for too long, I\u2019ve let this fact be an excuse for my unhappiness and proof of my oppression. The idea of the \u201cdefault parent\u201d is everywhere online.","_seopress_robots_index":"","_seopress_robots_follow":"","_seopress_robots_imageindex":"","_seopress_robots_snippet":"","_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"102","_seopress_robots_breadcrumbs":"","_seopress_robots_freeze_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_custom_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_canonical":"","_seopress_social_fb_title":"","_seopress_social_fb_desc":"","_seopress_social_fb_img":"","_seopress_social_fb_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_height":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_title":"","_seopress_social_twitter_desc":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_height":0,"_seopress_redirections_value":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled_regex":"","_seopress_redirections_logged_status":"","_seopress_redirections_param":"","_seopress_redirections_type":0,"_seopress_analysis_target_kw":"parent","_seopress_news_disabled":"","_seopress_video_disabled":"","_seopress_video":[],"_seopress_pro_schemas_manual":[],"_seopress_pro_rich_snippets_disable_all":"","_seopress_pro_rich_snippets_disable":[],"_seopress_pro_schemas":[],"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[102],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-26952","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationships"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/wp-content\/uploads\/2024\/05\/5.1-new-blog-image-large.webp","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26952","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/524"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=26952"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26952\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":33732,"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/26952\/revisions\/33732"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/26958"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=26952"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=26952"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=26952"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}