{"id":3139,"date":"2016-06-01T00:01:01","date_gmt":"2016-06-01T06:01:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.mops.org\/?p=3139"},"modified":"2016-06-01T00:01:01","modified_gmt":"2016-06-01T06:01:01","slug":"sometimes-passion-isnt-sexy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/sometimes-passion-isnt-sexy\/","title":{"rendered":"Sometimes Passion Isn\u2019t Sexy. It\u2019s Faithful."},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cIs there something I can do today to help you?\u201d It\u2019s one strategy I haven\u2019t used enough of my married life, but when I have he has always been grateful.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not genius or innovative. It\u2019s a simple question, but one that indicates I\u2019m living from my priorities one day at a time. Derek can look around the house and see all that needs to be done. He has access to our family calendar and knows all of the places I have to be. I think that makes him feel even more loved, that amidst my crazy, I\u2019m stopping, looking at him and asking, \u201cWhat about you?\u201d<\/p>\n

So I used it today. I actually used it as a \u201cwe\u201d since Gracie was sitting next to me and she had a long summer day ahead of her too. Besides including her in my language implied to her this posture of service was expected for her too.<\/p>\n

\u201cWell I just like being asked.\u201d His cheeky tone indicated he was joking, but then a bit more serious, \u201cYou could pay these bills.\u201d<\/p>\n

He looked down at the pile of papers on the kitchen counter in front of him. The papers that had been there for almost a week because I said he needed to deal with them. I could do that. Do that for him. In fact I was the only one who could support him in that way today. Sometimes passion is not sexy. It\u2019s faithful.<\/strong> Sometimes it is paying the bills so the other person can check it off of their mental to-do list and focus on what they are called to that day.<\/p>\n

Not always, but sometimes.<\/p>\n

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This is an excerpt from Alex\u2019s newly released book “<\/em>Loving My Actual Life: An Experiment in Relishing What\u2019s Right in Front of Me<\/a>“<\/em> (Baker Books). Find it wherever books are sold.<\/em><\/p>\n

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Alexandra Kuykendall<\/strong>
\nAs a mom to four girls, Alexandra Kuykendall\u2019s days are spent washing dishes, driving to and from different schools and trying to find a better solution to the laundry dilemma.\u00a0She is the author of \u00a0“Loving My Actual Life, An Experiment In Relishing What\u2019s Right In Front of Me<\/a>”\u00a0<\/i>and<\/span>\u00a0“The Artist\u2019s Daughter, A Memoir<\/a>“<\/em>. \u00a0A city girl at\u00a0heart, she makes her home in the shadow of downtown Denver. You can read more of\u00a0Alex\u2019s everyday thoughts and connect with her at <\/span>\u00a0AlexandraKuykendall.com<\/a>.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

\u201cIs there something I can do today to help you?\u201d It\u2019s one strategy I haven\u2019t used enough of my married life, but when I have he has always been grateful. It\u2019s not genius or innovative. It\u2019s a simple question, but one that indicates I\u2019m living from my priorities one day at a time. Derek can […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":3140,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_seopress_titles_title":"","_seopress_titles_desc":"","_seopress_robots_index":"","_seopress_robots_follow":"","_seopress_robots_imageindex":"","_seopress_robots_snippet":"","_seopress_robots_primary_cat":"0","_seopress_robots_breadcrumbs":"","_seopress_robots_freeze_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_custom_modified_date":"","_seopress_robots_canonical":"","_seopress_social_fb_title":"","_seopress_social_fb_desc":"","_seopress_social_fb_img":"","_seopress_social_fb_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_fb_img_height":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_title":"","_seopress_social_twitter_desc":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img":"","_seopress_social_twitter_img_attachment_id":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_width":0,"_seopress_social_twitter_img_height":0,"_seopress_redirections_value":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled":"","_seopress_redirections_enabled_regex":"","_seopress_redirections_logged_status":"","_seopress_redirections_param":"","_seopress_redirections_type":0,"_seopress_analysis_target_kw":"","_seopress_news_disabled":"","_seopress_video_disabled":"","_seopress_video":[],"_seopress_pro_schemas_manual":[],"_seopress_pro_rich_snippets_disable_all":"","_seopress_pro_rich_snippets_disable":[],"_seopress_pro_schemas":[],"_jetpack_feature_clip_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[102,117],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-3139","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationships","category-wellness"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3139","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3139"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3139\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3139"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3139"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3139"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}