{"id":32203,"date":"2024-12-09T10:19:00","date_gmt":"2024-12-09T16:19:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/?p=32203"},"modified":"2025-01-11T16:02:58","modified_gmt":"2025-01-11T22:02:58","slug":"when-your-kids-wont-listen","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/when-your-kids-wont-listen\/","title":{"rendered":"When Your Kids Won\u2019t Listen:"},"content":{"rendered":"

Welcome to the Club, Mom<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Let me paint a picture: You\u2019re standing in the kitchen, holding a spatula like some kind of mom-wielded scepter, calling out for the fourth time, \u201cDinner\u2019s ready!\u201d But instead of a peaceful family meal, it\u2019s like talking to a herd of invisible cats. One kid\u2019s lost in a video game, another is \u201cexploring\u201d the art of glitter glue in the living room, and the baby is attempting to climb the furniture like a mountain goat. Sound familiar? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kids not listening? <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Yeah, we\u2019ve all been there. It\u2019s part of the job, right? But here\u2019s the thing: it doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re doing something wrong. It doesn\u2019t mean your kids are wild animals (though some days, maybe you\u2019re convinced they are!). It means you\u2019re raising little humans who have their own minds, wills, and yes, selective hearing.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Raw Truth (It\u2019s Not You, It\u2019s Them) <\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s be real for a second: sometimes, when your kids don\u2019t listen, it feels like a personal attack. Like they\u2019re out to sabotage your sanity or prove some twisted point that they can indeed ignore every word that comes out of your mouth. But here\u2019s a truth bomb: it\u2019s normal. It\u2019s not personal. And it\u2019s not a reflection of your worth as a mom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Kids are wired to test boundaries, push limits, and generally march to the beat of their own drum (sometimes a drum they found in the basement at 6 a.m. on a Saturday). But that doesn\u2019t mean you\u2019re failing. It means they\u2019re learning. Painfully, slowly\u2014yes\u2014but learning. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Listening is a Skill<\/strong> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s something many people don\u2019t realize: listening isn\u2019t just about hearing words; it\u2019s a skill. It takes time for kids to figure out how to prioritize what they hear and respond appropriately. And\u2014spoiler alert\u2014they\u2019re not naturally great at it. But that doesn\u2019t mean all hope is lost!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Think about how God calls us to listen to him. \u201cBe still, and know that I am God\u201d (Psalm 46:10, ASV). Yeah, we\u2019re not always great at that, either, are we? Just like our kids, we sometimes tune out what God\u2019s saying because we\u2019re caught up in our own stuff. So, maybe cut your kids a little slack\u2014it\u2019s a process for all of us. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Practical Tips (Because We Need More Than Just Coffee)<\/strong> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Okay, so how do we actually get our kids to listen? Here\u2019s the fun part\u2014when it comes to kids, real-life tips may not work every time, but hey, they\u2019re worth a shot: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Get on Their Level<\/strong>: Physically crouch down, look them in the eye, and speak calmly. It makes them feel seen and heard\u2014and less like you\u2019re a foghorn blaring orders from the sky.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Short and Sweet<\/strong>: Keep instructions short. No ten-minute TED Talks, okay? \u201cShoes on,\u201d \u201cTeeth brushed,\u201d \u201cToys cleaned up\u201d\u2014these are the magic words.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Offer Choices<\/strong>: Give them some control. \u201cDo you want to brush your teeth before or after the story?\u201d\u2014kids love a good choice, even if both options get you what you want.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Follow Through<\/strong>: They need to know you mean business. Set expectations and follow through. Don\u2019t threaten consequences unless you\u2019re actually going to deliver (yep, even if it\u2019s inconvenient).\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    Encouragement for the Road (With a Side of Grace)<\/strong> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    When your kids won\u2019t listen, you\u2019re not alone. You\u2019re in the trenches with the rest of us, fighting the good fight. But take heart, mama\u2014God\u2019s got this. \u201cTrain up a child in the way he should go, and even when he is old he will not depart from it\u201d (Proverbs 22:6, ASV). You\u2019re planting seeds, even if it feels like you\u2019re just shouting into the void.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    So, pour yourself another cup of coffee (or tea, or protein shake, or whatever keeps you going) and know this: they may not be listening now, but they\u2019re absorbing more than you think. And one day, when they\u2019re adults navigating their own lives, they\u2019ll remember the way you patiently, lovingly, (and sometimes through gritted teeth) taught them. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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