{"id":32210,"date":"2024-12-11T10:33:00","date_gmt":"2024-12-11T16:33:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/?p=32210"},"modified":"2025-01-11T16:01:43","modified_gmt":"2025-01-11T22:01:43","slug":"idolatry-in-motherhood","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/idolatry-in-motherhood\/","title":{"rendered":"Idolatry in Motherhood\u00a0"},"content":{"rendered":"

Oftentimes, our idols slip by us, unnoticed. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

They subtly pull at our center of gravity, tugging our orbit away from God and more solely towards themselves.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Idols prune away at the other spheres of our lives, making space for themselves alone. Ironically, this is the opposite of what happens when we worship God\u2014when we place our worship in him, he pours into us, shining goodness into all the other areas of our lives.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But when we make anything else an idol\u2014and I mean anything else, even good things or people\u2014it drains our focus, sharpening it towards the idol alone. Other important things in our lives fall quietly to the wayside because we aren\u2019t listening. We only have ears for our idols. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, what exactly is an idol, and what does the Bible say about it? <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

An idol is something (or someone) we feel we cannot live without. Not just that it would be hard to live without (possibly incredibly hard), or that we would suffer without. It\u2019s the feeling of something we feel we simply cannot <\/strong>live without.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Psalm 73:25-26 says it perfectly: “Whom have I in heaven but thee? And there is none upon earth that I desire besides thee. My flesh and my heart faileth; But God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever” (ASV). That means God should be the only one we can’t live without.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Spoiler alert: it\u2019s not an easy task. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Habakkuk 2:18 talks about how deceitful idols are, but God is crystal clear throughout scripture that idols are dangerous. In fact, he considers idolatry such a serious issue that the first two of the Ten Commandments are all about it! (Exodus 20).\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When it comes to motherhood, it\u2019s all too easy to let idols sneak in. We can idolize our children, our husbands, our parenting styles, even the idea of having the \u201cperfect family.\u201d No joke\u2014literally anything can become an idol if we\u2019re not careful. So how do we recognize it? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some signs and questions we should ask ourselves to figure out if we\u2019re dealing with an idol: <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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  • Is it something we\u2019re always thinking about, to the point of obsession?\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Is it something we prioritize above everything else, to the detriment of other important parts of our life?\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Is it all we talk about with our friends, family, and spouses?\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Do we sacrifice listening to others because we\u2019re so focused on our idol?\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Does worrying about it disturb our peace\u2014even though Christ promises peace to those who trust in him?\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Are we unable to handle criticism of our idol or how we view it?\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Is our identity in Christ, or is it wrapped up in this thing or person?\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  • Are we using this idol to fill the void that only God should be filling?\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

    Since we\u2019re talking about idolatry in motherhood, let\u2019s take a closer look at what that might look like. A mom who idolizes\u2014not to be confused with rightly loving\u2014her children might: <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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    • Constantly talk about her kids and nothing else.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Revolve her life completely around them, sometimes even spoiling them.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Neglect her spiritual life or other relationships because her entire focus is on her kids.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Make her husband feel sidelined or neglected because the kids always come first.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Let her children dominate conversations, always allowing them to interrupt without boundaries.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Only hang out with other moms and not bother with single friends or family.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Have no interests, hobbies, or goals outside of her children or motherhood.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Worry obsessively about her kids\u2019 future and success.\u00a0<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    • Spend all her time trying to be a better mom, or <\/strong>complaining about how hard it is\u2014even when being a mom is her whole identity.\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n

      Now, you could easily swap out \u201ckids\u201d for something else\u2014like a career, a husband, or even something as seemingly random as a favorite hobby (like The Patriots football team, Instagram, or Taylor Swift). The pattern is the same. So how do we turn away from idolatry and put our focus back on God, so the rest of our life can heal? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Turning Away from Idolatry<\/strong> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

      Acknowledge the Idol<\/strong>\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

      The first step is admitting there\u2019s an issue. Ask God to show you where you\u2019ve allowed something (even good things!) to take precedence over him. James 1:5 promises that God will give us wisdom when we ask for it. So, ask for that clarity!\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Reestablish Your Identity in Christ<\/strong>\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

      It\u2019s easy to let our role as moms define us, but remember\u2014your first identity is as a daughter of Christ. Ephesians 2:10 reminds us we are God\u2019s masterpiece, created for good works. That\u2019s where our worth should come from\u2014not from how well our kids behave or how much we do for them.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Practice Surrender<\/strong>\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

      This means trusting God with the details instead of trying to control everything. Psalm 46:10 tells us to \u201cbe still and know that I am God\u201d (ASV). It\u2019s a reminder that he\u2019s in control, even when it feels like everything is chaos.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Prioritize Time with God<\/strong>\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

      Some days it might feel impossible, but make room for God in your day. Even short moments in his presence can recalibrate your focus and bring peace. Matthew 6:33 encourages us to seek his kingdom first, and everything else will fall into place.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Release Comparison and Perfectionism<\/strong>\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

      Stop measuring yourself against other moms\u2014or anyone else for that matter! God has called you to parent in a way that honors him. 2 Corinthians 12:9 reminds us that God\u2019s grace is sufficient and works through our weaknesses.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Embrace Grace and Rest<\/strong>\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

      Being a mom is tough, but Jesus offers us rest. Matthew 11:28-30 invites us to lean on him for strength. You don\u2019t have to have it all together\u2014rest in his grace, and you\u2019ll find yourself better equipped to love and care for your family.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Live Your Faith in Front of Your Kids<\/strong>\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

      One of the best ways to turn away from idolatry is by modeling faith for your kids. Proverbs 22:6 reminds us that training up a child starts with showing them what it looks like to prioritize God above all else.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      By letting go of idols and shifting your focus back to God, you\u2019ll find balance in your life. You\u2019ll not only feel peace in your spirit, but your relationships will thrive. You\u2019ll be able to navigate motherhood with more grace and joy, knowing that God is guiding you every step of the way. <\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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