{"id":7592,"date":"2018-05-08T13:02:49","date_gmt":"2018-05-08T19:02:49","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.mops.org\/?p=7592"},"modified":"2018-05-08T13:02:49","modified_gmt":"2018-05-08T19:02:49","slug":"tackling-tantrums","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/tackling-tantrums\/","title":{"rendered":"Tackling Tantrums"},"content":{"rendered":"

There are some beautiful days of motherhood I will always remember. And then there\u2019s the memory of\u00a0my 2 \u00bd-year-old screaming in the hallway, overtired but refusing to settle for a nap. Since I couldn\u2019t come up with a way to get her to stay in her room, I took my one-week-old baby and locked MYSELF in my bedroom. Soon the thrashing toddler fell asleep in a heap at my doorway.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s hard to believe my sweet and reasonable now seven-year-old was the same child also responsible for the Great Indoor Playground Meltdown of 2012.<\/p>\n

Now that I\u2019m in the tantrum phase again with my third child, here are some ways I diffuse these battles as quickly as possible:<\/p>\n

Respect their limits.<\/strong> It\u2019s hard to leave a birthday party early to honor an afternoon naptime. But I\u2019ve learned that tired kids don\u2019t always act sleepy – sometimes they go straight to losing all self-control. Like me when I\u2019m hungry.<\/p>\n

But when it does get ugly …<\/p>\n

Learn the art of the quick exit.<\/strong>\u00a0Scoop up that kid and get him home or into the car seat before he gets any more worked up.\u00a0There is no reasoning during a temper tantrum.\u00a0There\u2019s no negotiating with a screamer.\u00a0But you CAN make sure he learns that a tantrum won\u2019t help him get his way.<\/p>\n

Use calm words to reassure.<\/strong> \u201cSorry, Buddy, Mommy is getting you into the stroller because we have to take brother to school. I know you don\u2019t like it, but you\u2019re going to be OK. Then we\u2019re going to come home and play.\u201d It\u2019s not easy to keep a gentle tone while wrangling a flailing kid, but it yields better results than yelling.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t take it personally.<\/strong> It\u2019s emotionally hard when your baby fights you with everything she\u2019s got. It stinks to have to alter plans for a misbehaving child. But it\u2019s part of the job of training young kids. And try not to be embarrassed by those public incidents. If you downplay it, others won\u2019t think it\u2019s a big deal.<\/p>\n

Lavish love on them when calm returns.<\/strong>\u00a0You may be fried, angry and a touch traumatized. But this is your chance to talk out what happened, restore the relationship and remind them that life works better when they\u2019re calm and kind.<\/p>\n

Oh, and lavish some love on yourself after a rough parenting day. You deserve it!<\/p>\n

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\"\"Kate Beal is a former news producer raising three kids in the DC area. She prefers soul-baring questions rather than small talk, and she\u2019s perfectly content with the cinnamon rolls made from the can.<\/p>\n

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