{"id":8131,"date":"2018-07-30T00:02:48","date_gmt":"2018-07-30T06:02:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.mops.org\/?p=8131"},"modified":"2018-07-30T00:02:48","modified_gmt":"2018-07-30T06:02:48","slug":"the-four-most-important-conversations-youll-have-as-a-parent","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/the-four-most-important-conversations-youll-have-as-a-parent\/","title":{"rendered":"The Four Most Important Conversations You’ll Have as a Parent"},"content":{"rendered":"

This is a four-part blog series. Each consecutive day this week\u00a0will feature Conversation one, Conversation two, Conversation three and Conversation four both in print and video. These excerpts were taken from a chapter written by Axis<\/a> in\u00a0Dennis and Barbara Rainey’s upcoming book,<\/em> The Art of Parenting<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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CONVERSATION ONE<\/strong><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cI am raising my daughter like it is the 1950s,\u201d a flustered mom emphasized to me down the barrel of her pointed index finger. Clearly, she was not happy. And in our experience, it is never fun to be caught between a momma bear and her cub – even if her cub is seventeen years old. One of our Axis traveling teams had just finished speaking to a group of two hundred Christian high school students. We were teaching about smartphones, teen culture, and the Christian worldview, and this momma bear was not pleased that we had played a song by Taylor Swift\u2014even though we were asking the students to examine Taylor\u2019s lyrics. So what\u2019s the big deal? She didn\u2019t want her daughter to know who Taylor Swift was, much less have her hear Tay Tay\u2019s music. After all, she was trying to raise her daughter like it was the 1950s, and the last time we checked, Taylor Swift was born a little later than that. However … it\u2019s not the 1950s, and God has not given us our children to raise in the 1950s. We get to raise them now.<\/p>\n

Time Machines<\/strong><\/p>\n

But honestly, we completely understand why she was upset. It seems like things are changing faster than anyone can keep up. At Axis, we have a team of twenty-six people (with an average age of twenty-four) who wake up every morning and come to work thinking about and creating resources around teen culture. Yet sometimes even we feel behind! Who would have thought that \u201cbroccoli\u201d would mean weed, or that the eggplant emoji would be slang for male anatomy? Who could have guessed that the phrase \u201cNetflix and chill\u201d would be a euphemism for a casual sexual hookup or that \u201cmia\u201d would be shorthand for bulimia. And of course, LGBTTQQIAAP1 feels like it can\u2019t grow any longer, but it might.<\/p>\n

Modern Swiss Army Knife <\/strong><\/p>\n

And then there\u2019s the glorious smartphone, the rectangular modern-day Swiss Army knife that\u2019s in the pockets of preteens and teens everywhere. It seems that the smartphone could be the engine accelerating the good and bad shifts in teen culture. As one dad put it, \u201cI always feel three apps behind my kids.\u201d And we know from interacting with thousands of parents that the smartphone is the number one battleground over which parents and teens fight. The times, they are a-changin\u2019, and if we take any amount of time to think about the shifts in teen culture and technology, it gets overwhelming fast. It will make even the best of us want to retreat into our time machines and head back to the 1950s. Okay, maybe we just tried to overwhelm you a little. But let us assure you. All is not lost. Actually, there are incredible opportunities for you to invest in your children and help rewire the way they interact with technology and the messages it transfers. And it doesn\u2019t involve throwing all tech off a cliff and retreating. Or sounding the alarm and launching into a fear-based thermonuclear war against the rectangles in your life. The opportunity lies in reframing the conversation through \u201csmartphone discipleship.\u201d This is a way to affirm a deeper way of being human, and it connects your wisdom with your students\u2019 wonder.<\/em><\/p>\n

What follows are four conversations to have with your preteens and teens about technology and, specifically, the smartphone. These might be four of the most important conversations you\u2019ll have as a parent.<\/p>\n

Conversation One: Very Good, Cursed, and Redeemed <\/strong><\/p>\n

Dr. Sherry Turkle, author and founding director of the MIT Initiative on Technology and Self, once said, \u201cComputers are not good or bad; they are powerful.\u201d Turkle\u2019s statement is just as provocative in a day when most teenagers use their smartphones as their primary computers. We agreed with this statement for over a year (whoops!), but then one day we stopped and started to rethink it. Does the Bible actually say that the world God made, including the technology created from it, is not \u201cgood or bad\u201d and that it is neutral? Actually, in Genesis it says the exact opposite. God weaves the world together and then declares that it is \u201cvery good.\u201d Part of that goodness includes the command God gave man and woman to cultivate the earth. In essence, we are living out the image of God imprinted on us when we create. In our view, technology\u2014like any tool we\u2019ve created\u2014is simply one way humans have cultivated the \u201cvery good\u201d cosmos. But the story doesn\u2019t end there. As we all know, this very good world has been subjected to the curse since Adam and Eve chose to rebel against God. Thus, cultivation\u2014and therefore all technology\u2014is affected by the curse. So rather than being neutral, technology is both very good and cursed. And of course, the story doesn\u2019t end there, either. God is committed to His creation, and through the death, burial, and resurrection (and way, truth, and life) of Jesus, God is redeeming that creation. The best part is that we are invited into that mission with Him. Think about that for a second. We are joining God again, this time in redeeming what has been lost.<\/p>\n

So here\u2019s the first important conversation to have with your student: How is a smartphone (or anything!) very good, how is it cursed, and how can we as a family redeem it? This positioning is huge. You are no longer the bad guy, and you are no longer making the cool new piece of technology evil. Instead, you are inviting that technology into a bigger story, into the story of God. And while doing that, you are humbly submitting that form of technology under the rule of God. Remember to have this conversation: How is a smartphone very good, how is it cursed, and how can we as a family redeem it?<\/p>\n

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\"\"David Eaton cofounded Axis 11 years ago.\u00a0He is married to Lindsey, has a 5-year-old daughter, Shiloh Abigail; a 2-year-old son, Zion Daniel; and a newborn, Vale Calvary.\u00a0David plays drums and uke, roasts his own coffee, and he is always collecting great questions that will start great conversations. The Eatons live in Colorado where David is also a part-time youth pastor for about 20 teens at his home church.<\/p>\n

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The magic of Axis is CultureTranslation: interpreting student trends for parents\u00a0while\u00a0translating timeless theology, philosophy, and essential questions of life for their teens. Axis believes in\u00a0the\u00a0power of life-on-life discipleship between caring adults and the next generation!<\/span><\/p>\n

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