{"id":8837,"date":"2018-12-31T00:02:32","date_gmt":"2018-12-31T07:02:32","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.mops.org\/?p=8837"},"modified":"2018-12-31T00:02:32","modified_gmt":"2018-12-31T07:02:32","slug":"it-will-be-ok","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/it-will-be-ok\/","title":{"rendered":"It Will Be OK"},"content":{"rendered":"

photo credit: Ashley Wright Photography<\/em><\/p>\n

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes \u2026 well, you know the rest.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s been beat into us as women that there is a natural progression to things: find man, make baby. But it\u2019s not always that easy. Sometimes there\u2019s stress involved \u2013 waiting, fees, fertility procedures. Or, if you\u2019re like me, two miscarriages.<\/p>\n

The struggle to create a family is often hard \u2014 often full of the unexpected \u2014 and if it doesn\u2019t go as planned, society has told us to stay quiet about it. But I couldn\u2019t disagree more. Staying silent keeps the pain present. We are women; how dare we be hushed. We need to release it, and we need to release it together. My husband is a great sounding board, but at times he\u2019s an insufficient outlet. Men can be internal. Men can differ in communication and expression. Men didn\u2019t expect to bear a child and find themselves bleeding instead.<\/p>\n

But if you follow what breaks your heart, you\u2019ll find your people, and I promise \u2013 you are not alone. I\u2019ve stood witness to many women who have had difficulties getting pregnant and staying pregnant. They are out there and they are warriors \u2014 fighting for their children before they are even conceived. If you have the courage to open your mouth and share your struggles, I bet you\u2019ll be met with an astounding number of \u201cme too\u2019s.\u201d We are women hiding in plain sight and we need each other.<\/p>\n

There will come a time when you are called to wait, to sit still and surrender, and this uncertain period lumped somewhere between our plan and His, shouldn\u2019t be done alone. There is great power in finding someone who can say, \u201cI get it\u201d instead of \u201cI can\u2019t imagine,\u201d and there are droves of women who can do just that.<\/p>\n

I am one of them.<\/p>\n

As a nurse, I was taught to never provide a patient with false reassurance. You are forbidden to tell them it will be OK, because what if it isn\u2019t? But that is where my medical training and my spirituality conflict, because my God \u2013 amazing, awesome and always good\u2014 is a God of miracles and of assurance. He makes it OK. Always. He is full of abundance.<\/p>\n

You may think I\u2019m only saying this now because I eventually got my babies, but you\u2019d be mistaken. My pregnancies were complicated: anxiety from the losses, 70 pound weight gain in spite of perfect exercise and nutrition, a 32-hour labor that resulted in an infected C-section, ending my ability to breastfeed \u2013 and that\u2019s just my birth story. God also gave me children who have extra challenges and disabilities. He did not tie up my life in a neat little bow. The idea I had in my head of who I\u2019d be and who they would be was taken from me as quickly as the miscarriages were. But that\u2019s the lesson: trading expectation for appreciation. His plan is better than any birth plan I could ever come up with, and because of my losses I am well aware of just how much I have gained.<\/p>\n

My season of waiting was preparation for the life I have now, I just didn\u2019t know it at the time. So while you are waiting, be pregnant with possibility. It will all be revealed soon enough.<\/p>\n

I can\u2019t tell you that you\u2019re going to get pregnant on your first try or your tenth. I can\u2019t tell you that all the medical interventions in the world will even work, because sometimes they don\u2019t. But what I know for sure is that with an incredible amount of pain comes an incredible amount of purpose, and if God can put a baby in Mary\u2019s belly, he can impregnate you with a really full and beautiful life.<\/p>\n

So hang on. It will be OK. It all gets better when you relinquish control.<\/p>\n

And by the way, I believe your baby is on the way. And that\u2019s not false reassurance.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s God\u2019s abundance.<\/p>\n

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\"\"Stephanie Hanrahan is wife to a sick husband, mother to special needs kiddos and a woman who often unravels (then finds her footing again). Learn how she traded her pretending for a panty liner on\u00a0Instagram<\/a>, Facebook<\/a>, and her blog Tinkles Her Pants<\/a>, where she leaks nothing but the truth.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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