{"id":9024,"date":"2019-06-23T00:02:31","date_gmt":"2019-06-23T06:02:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.mops.org\/?p=9024"},"modified":"2019-06-23T00:02:31","modified_gmt":"2019-06-23T06:02:31","slug":"summer-rhythms","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.themom.co\/fr\/summer-rhythms\/","title":{"rendered":"Summer Rhythms"},"content":{"rendered":"

My first summer as a new mom didn\u2019t really feel like summer. I had been staying home nearly a year and so, as I watched moms with older kids reframe their schedules and lament the loss of alone time that school provided, our routine stayed the same. Some things did change. After attending MOPS for that entire school year, I started getting invitations for playdates. A group of moms met for weekly hikes at trails around town and I started experiencing a new world of exploration.<\/p>\n

Now, six years later, I\u2019m one of those moms I looked up to. The one who is restructuring schedule and figuring out how to create space for the quiet and alone time I got used to, even with just two mornings a week to myself while our youngest was at preschool.<\/p>\n

I hesitate to give advice or share our summer routine because what works for our family could translate to the most stressful summer for yours. One thing I\u2019ve learned over my almost-seven years of motherhood is to try to take the path that is least stressful. If I\u2019m calm and happy, it\u2019s likely my kids will be calm and happy.<\/p>\n

Some of my friends make lists of things to do in the summer months so if the kids are bored, they have a preplanned set of ideas to fill the time. I recently read about a mom coordinating her days into \u201cMovement Mondays\u201d and \u201cWater Wednesdays\u201d so their weeks have a rhythm and structure. I know another mom who lets each of her four kids pick one activity they want to do during the summer. She doesn\u2019t guarantee which day they\u2019ll do it but she does promise to make time for those activities.<\/p>\n

In our house, summers are for slow mornings in our pajamas, for playdates and water fun, for Costco-sized boxes of OtterPops, for riding bikes after breakfast and before dinner, for extra screen time and reading in our backyard tree castle. As my girls grow, I\u2019m finding a natural rhythm to our days. My oldest thrives on sticker charts and created one for our fridge. I don\u2019t know what reward she\u2019s working toward, but she\u2019ll tidy, sweep, and read to her sister all for the promise of an extra sticker. It works for now.<\/p>\n

I thought I\u2019d share a handful of rhythms we\u2019re creating this summer. They didn\u2019t all work last year and they most likely won\u2019t all work next year but in this moment, they are what give me space and the structure I need in these blissfully unstructured days.<\/p>\n

Chores Before Screen Time<\/strong><\/p>\n

Normally, I don\u2019t link screen time to a rewards system because screen time is my time. Making my girls give it up means I\u2019m giving up a quiet space in our day. But this year, my almost seven-year-old really wanted to start a chore chart so I did link screen time to her simple chores. Mondays she tidies the main floor, Tuesdays she sweeps, Wednesdays she cleans her bedroom. You get the idea. The baseline is minimal. If she kind of does these chores, she gets screen time. I figure anything is better than nothing and so far it\u2019s decreased my nagging. For me, the key is trying rather than perfection. Our nearly four-year-old is off the hook for this. If she tries at all, we\u2019re good!<\/p>\n

Fun Meal Planning<\/strong><\/p>\n

I try to involve my kids in our weekly meal planning anyway, but summers are for saying yes to more. When my youngest asked for cake for dinner, I googled savory cakes and was amazed at the choices! This simple yes means something new in our meal rotation and it feels like a celebration. The other day we ordered pizza, spread the picnic blanket in our front yard, and had an impromptu dinner. Suddenly our normal Friday fare became an out of the norm experience. I\u2019m trying to remember this philosophy in other areas of our days. We have to eat anyway\u2014what\u2019s a simple way to make a normal meal special? What are other daily tasks that can be made fun? Is there a playground next to the grocery store? Can you stop there for a few minutes before your errands? Is there an ice cream shop on the way to another place? Taking some time to mix up your routine feels incredibly special to kids of all ages.<\/p>\n

Relaxed Rhythms<\/strong><\/p>\n

Our family works well when we\u2019re on a rhythm rather than a strict schedule. If possible, I like to spend the first few days of summer establishing a new routine. For us, this looks like busier mornings and quieter afternoons. Even though we\u2019re long out of the napping phase, if we\u2019re home we practice an hour of quiet rest after lunch time. Sometimes this means going to our separate rooms with a book. The other day, my girls took their books to the backyard tree fort for the hour. Whatever we do, it has to be an activity that involves minimal interaction with me so that we can all rest.<\/p>\n

None of these rhythms happen perfectly on any given day. But because I\u2019m choosing to practice and model them, on those longer days it\u2019s easier to lean into this modified schedule.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re able, take five or ten minutes to think about what gives you<\/em> the most energy in your mothering. If you need that hour of quiet and space every day, take the time to train your kids to give you that. It won\u2019t be perfect but it will be better than nothing. If you thrive on activity and unique experiences, make a list with your kids and plan out some summer adventures! Just remember that whatever you choose, it has to give you<\/em> joy and life.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m leaning into the paradox of embracing the spontaneity summer offers while creating a structure and rhythm to our days that will keep us sane and safe. It\u2019s what works for our family in this given season and I\u2019m remembering to listen to that more than anything.<\/p>\n

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Annie Rim lives in Colorado where she plays with her two inquisitive daughters, hikes with her husband, and writes about life and faith on her blog:\u00a0annierim.com<\/a>. She has taught in the classroom, at an art museum, and now in the playroom.\u00a0She\u2019s a contributor at The MOPS Blog, the editor for\u00a0The Red Couch Book Club<\/a>\u00a0at SheLoves Magazine, and a naptime scribbler.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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