Do <\/strong>take a few deep breaths! It\u2019s our instinct to keep our children happy. There\u2019s also a huge expectation that as parents, we have total control of our children (LOL, right?!). It\u2019s easy to act quickly to calm your child down out of anxiety and fear of what others will think. But stop and breathe!<\/p>\n Do <\/strong>figure out the reason for the tantrum. Ok, so you\u2019ve stopped and taken a few breaths. Now figure out which of the following goals your child is trying to reach by throwing a tantrum:<\/p>\n Do <\/strong>teach your child positive ways to access desired outcomes. As parents, we often feel as though we need to teach our children what not<\/em> to do. But to do this we need to teach them what to<\/em> do.<\/p>\n Do <\/b>address tantrums the same way each time. Consistency really is key.<\/p>\n Do<\/strong> consider using time-outs if necessary. Time-outs<\/a> are effective for addressing problem behaviors. Just make sure to implement them consistently and effectively.<\/p>\n DON’Ts:<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n Don\u2019t (<\/span>t<\/b>his is the big one<\/b>) <\/strong>allow your child to access what he wanted by throwing a tantrum. <\/span>Tantrum for a tangible? Sorry, Johnny, no Snickers for you. Tantrum for escape? Do not allow the child to escape the task or environment. Tantrum for attention? Nope. Actively ignore the tantrum. Instead, provide positive attention to the child after he has calmed down.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t<\/strong> feel guilty that your child is throwing a tantrum in public. It\u2019s impossible to not feel slightly embarrassed, I\u2019ll admit. However, kids do this. It\u2019s not your fault. But it\u2019s your job to teach them better ways to get their needs met. And this requires that you do not give in to tantrums out of embarrassment.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t <\/strong>spank your child. I know this is a hot button, but research from AAP<\/a> has shown that spanking is harmful long term. It leads to increased aggression and negative behaviors.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t <\/strong>be afraid to ask for help. Ask friends and family members for advice. Get them to observe a tantrum and specifically ask them for feedback on how you addressed it. If you feel your child\u2019s tantrums are significantly frequent or intense, ask for professional help. Your pediatrician can likely refer you to a psychologist or behavior analyst who is trained in behavior management.<\/p>\n Follow these guidelines and your child\u2019s tantrums will significantly decrease. However, don\u2019t be surprised if the tantrums get worse before they get better. Just imagine if you were given ice cream for a month straight each time you cried. Then, all of the sudden, you cry and don\u2019t get ice cream. What do you do? Well, you cry harder of course. But eventually we learn that our behavior is not leading to the desired outcome. So don\u2019t be discouraged if you feel like things aren\u2019t improving or are actually getting worse initially. Good luck Mama, you\u2019ll get through this!<\/p>\n <\/p>\n So you\u2019re going through the tantrum stage. Yikes! Tantrums come in all shapes and sizes. They often include one or more of the following: falling on the floor, screaming, crying, biting, hitting. My daughter started the tantrum stage around her first birthday. 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Dr. Hannah Samaha lives with her husband, 18-month-old daughter, and dachshund in New Orleans, Louisiana. She has a PhD in School Psychology and is a school psychologist for a local charter school network. Hannah has a passion for addressing children\u2019s behavioral needs through consultation with parents and teachers. Her research has involved the examination of behavioral consultation through videoconferencing. Feel free to reach out to her at hannahlsamaha@gmail.com<\/a>.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"